“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice, well, then you’re going to get fucked.”
- Mark Manson
My longtime stylist, who is my fellow Sagittarian soul-brother, always tells me that we are both natural worriers. Although we are broad thinking, optimistic and creative souls, we often get consumed by the most minuscule of details. It's difficult to "let shit go" when you're the type of person who is detail obsessed, need to be in control of particularities, and also have paper thin patience for stupidness. There's rarely a postmortem moment (of a project, a task, or an event) when I'm not over-analyzing every small thing, and going over tiny details in my head. I cringe when I have finalized a print design and the font kerning is 0.0001mm off. I wanna puke when I see post-event photo edits and the food plating I planned is wrong because the caterer used a different serving platter than what I had specified. And don't get me started on the millennial bullshittery that I wanna punch in the face every damn day. I admit, "letting shit go" is difficult to do if you're borderline OCD (borderline neurotic, borderline clusterfuck... but who's judging) and I'm still learning. But, I'm committed to being more patient, learning the art of brushing it off and giving zero fucks about things that really don't matter. To be honest, the older I get, the less and less patience I have - but the more I practice constructive ways of moving on, the more I realize there are way more important things to give actual fucks about. Like your health, family, inner happiness, world issues, a glass of vintage rosé and a great margherita pizza.
Here are some of my tips that help me brush it off:
MEDITATE, LET IT GO, KEEP IT MOVING.
WRITE THAT SHIT DOWN. ALL OF THE BS, ALL OF THE RANTS + VENTS. PEN TO PAPER THERAPY.
Harness That NEGATIVE Energy Into Productivity.
When In Doubt, Just Sleep. OR GET LAID.
P.S. I have recently read the book 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*uck' by Mark Manson. I suggest you read it. Or not. BUT it is a great read, and I swear I have highlighted and bookmarked the crap out of it.